“I think the experience gap between a 19 year old and a 35 year old is too large to result in a healthy romantic relationship without a power imbalance,” I say.
I pause.
“But of course I’d date a 3,000 year old shapeshifting dragon demi-god if the opportunity arose. Why do you ask?”
Large gaps in the first few years of young adulthood: eek… I recognize that you’re an adult and have a right to make your own decisions but please please please be cautious and think very critically about why your partner isn’t dating someone with more life under their belt, don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice enforcing your boundaries and remember your first obligation is to yourself
Large age gaps after several years of adult independence and self-discovery: use your best judgement, I might raise an eyebrow but I’ll trust you to know what you want and what works for you on an individual basis
Large age gaps when one partner is an ancient supernatural dragon god or some shit: 😎 YOLO don’t get et
This is how all rape trials should go. Especially those of people who work in the sex industry because, unfortunately, some people take their profession as consent.
